I got engaged in September.
It was one of the happiest moments of my life. We were on the beach in Maui with my entire family watching while my boyfriend got down on one knee and proposed. I was shocked, excited, and most of all happy. In that moment, all was well.
The wedding in going to be in April 2017 ( 6 months away! ) We have the venue set, the guest list sorted, the bridal party chosen, the theme picked out, the cake organized, the photographer chosen; we have made some progress. It's been a fun journey so far... so the reason I'm writing about this on my Body Love blog? Well, I got the dress too.
As a bride-to-be I now notice more things that pertain to weddings. Of course right!? I was scrolling one day on Facebook and this popped up,
"I Spent 3 Months Getting Buff For My Wedding- Here's How It Went."
Although I don't want to judge anyone who has a specific "perfect body" plan before their own wedding this title just kind of made me sad.
There already seems to be a lot pressure and stress when planning a wedding but to me
the most stress is put on the bride.
Not because all the planning is put on the bride, the finances, the details...but stress to look as thin, fit, and beautiful in the dress. All eyes are on the bride, which makes it that more intense to look a certain way. It's sad to me because this day, the wedding day, that you only get once is centered around getting fit and losing weight 3 months prior to the big day.
This is an interesting topic for me because now I am in the body positive world. BUT that doesn't mean I don't get triggered.
When I see articles like I mentioned above or girls that are getting married who promote their meal plan and workout plan on Facebook I judge myself. I think- do I need to change the way I eat and exercise before my wedding? Is is acceptable if I don't show up to my wedding looking as fit and thin as possible? Will I be judged if I don't have the perfect body on the big day?
The answer is: NO.
I do not have to change a single thing before my wedding day. My plan for the next 6 months is to enjoy my life as much as possible. Spend time with my soon to be hubby. To laugh and love. To drink coffee. Work on my passion. Journal. Meditate. Put fresh flowers in my home. Read books that inspire and move me. To wake up everyday with an internal peace of mind. To dream and manifest my future. To surround myself with body positive messages and stand strong in my truth that
IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT MY BODY LOOKS LIKE ON THE DAY OF MY WEDDING AS LONG AS I HONOR MYSELF, LOVE MYSELF, AND RESPECT MYSELF.
To be honest, my mental health is most important to me.
I would rather have a healthy mind than a stick thin body.
To all the ladies out there...
who are already married, are engaged, who plan on getting married remember that you are worthy no matter what your weight is on your wedding day. The amount of force that you apply to the earth is not how you measure your worth anyway.
It all comes down to the love that you feel within that allows you to spread it to the people around you.
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