How babysitting a 2 year old taught me the “Perfect Body” doesn’t exist
It’s a Tuesday morning and I’m driving to Marina Del Rey to babysit a family friend’s 2 year old. Our typical routine when I get to the house is greeting the little cutie, open up the stroller, pack snacks and water, and head out to “story time” at the local library. It’s a nice 1.5-mile walk (I like to run to get in a workout), which starts off the morning with fresh air and good vibes.
Story time attracts a big group of babies, toddlers, Moms, Dads, Nannies, Grandparents- it’s a sing along fiasco. This has been our routine for 6 months now so I’ve definitely spent a lot of time being around little kids.
When story time was over everyone headed over to the play area. I sat down on a chair over looking the kids. This is when I became the observer. Coming from a background of having a severe eating disorder I found myself analyzing all of the girls (not in a creepy way of course.) I realized that from the moment we are born all of our bodies are shaped differently. I was able to compare these amazing, innocent, sweet girls from the ages of newborn to 5 years old. I don’t think anyone would go up to a little 2 year old with a cute potbelly and tell her she’s fat. I don’t think anyone would praise another 2 year old and tell her she is more worthy because she has a slender frame. That is complete non-sense. We just wouldn’t comment on body image at their age.
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The message that I got from this experience at the library is all humans are born with different shapes and different sized bodies.
Some will have a bigger base with a smaller top section. Some will have slender legs with a heavyset top; some will be even all around. The point is if 2 year olds already have different body types than each other and are not judged for it, why the heck would we judge 16 year olds, 25 year olds, 40 year olds, and all women on this planet with a body?
The judgment is what makes our world obsessed with diet, fitness, and body image. We are creating a massive mental and physical health issue because we compare women to what a “perfect body” should look like.
There is extreme judgment when a female doesn’t fit the stereotype of the “perfect body.”
The truth is, there is no “perfect body.” Women kill themselves over looking a certain way to fit inside these “guidelines.” It’s literally sucking their souls out of them. As little girls, just like the ones at the library, we didn’t even know what body image meant. We didn’t know what it meant to hate our body. We would live everyday from our truth; to have fun, laugh, eat, play, be happy, and love.
What if we lived in a world where all body types were loved and accepted? To actually praise someone for the body they were born with. Eating disorders, chronic dieters, feelings of unworthiness, would not exist. Imagine that.
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